You’d think after meeting with your doctor naked and pregnant that asking questions about your body wouldn’t be so awkward. But that’s usually not the case.

I can still get nervous asking intimate questions. But it shouldn’t be that way.

There are so many vulnerable questions that come up during pregnancy but going to the internet to get your answers won’t get you very far. Your doctor's office is the best place to get the info you need.  

No judgment, Just Answers

Most doctors have seen it all. It’s their job to support you through pregnancy and they want to give you that care! So this is the place to ask questions freely. This is a no judgment zone! 

There is NOTHING that would be taboo to bring up. So don’t hold back. Share what's going on and get your questions answered. 

You’ll be glad you did. 

Safe Sex in Pregnancy

One of the big questions in pregnancy is: is it safe to have sex?

If your pregnancy is a normal/low risk pregnancy, be confident to move into a sexual encounter. Generally, sex is safe during pregnancy 😮‍💨

This includes all types of sexual encounters — orgasms, outercourse, stimulation, sex toys (washed properly!) and anything else you and your partner fancy. 

Though your growing belly can become its own obstacle, there are ways to still connect sexually. Talk to your partner and listen so you can find what’s comfortable for both of you. 

There are concerns that arise about sex hurting the baby, but know these are misconceptions. The cervix is sealed tight and the baby is well cushioned in its amniotic sac. Intercourse and outercourse are fair game in the bedroom during pregnancy. 

When Sex Isn’t Safe 

There are a few situations where your doctor will recommend “pelvic rest” and it's best to avoid intercourse. These usually happens when you’re dealing with: 
History of preterm labor

• Placenta Previa 
• A short cervix
• Your water has broken 

Sexual encounters don’t have to only be intercourse though. 

Stimulation and outercourse (sexual activity that’s anything BUT penetration) are great options when you want to connect with your partner but need pelvic rest. These types of sexual encounters are safe while the baby’s cookin’.

Working With the Changes in Your Body

A changing body is expected when you’re growing a baby. But it doesn’t make it easy! 

Pregnancy is full of stretch marks, extra pounds, tender breasts, libido shifts, and added curves. That's a lot! (and I didn’t even cover it all!) 

These changes can lead you feeling self conscious and discouraged.

Remember: your body is growing a literal human being. Focus on what your body IS doing and embrace her with love. 

The discomforts and insecurities that arise from these changes are more easily managed when you talk about them with your partner. 

If you aren’t feeling up for sex, let him know. And find other ways to connect. 

Feeling shameful about your big belly and extra pounds? Explain your insecurities and find ways to face them together. 

I’ve struggled with body image for years and I can tell you that not seeing the numbers on the scale at every doctor's appointments have made a huge difference in my pregnancies — try it for yourself and see what happens!

With all these changes, put energy into what you can control and leave the rest behind. If you’re moving your body in ways that feel good to you and choosing nutrient dense food, you should really let the rest fall away.


Your Doctor Knows Best!

Though sex is generally safe, each pregnancy is different. After all is said and done, YOU need to ask your doctor what is best for your situation.

Your doctor will know your pregnancy and medical history. This will help them give you the best advice to keep you and your baby safe. 

So ask away! No question is off limits.